Preparing for the Loss of a Loved One
Some of you may have noticed that I’ve been writing a lot less than normal lately. The unfortunate truth behind this is that my grandmother has been in the hospital for several weeks now and it looks like she won’t be coming home.
I’ve been doing a lot of preparing lately. I’ve been working with myself to come to terms with the inevitable; I’ve been working with my family to get us all in a place where we can make her feel as comfortable as possible in what may be her last days.
One of the most important things one can do in preparation for such a loss is to make sure everyone in the family knows. This will allow them to say their goodbyes and carry out any final tasks they may have to do.
Be sure to tell them you love them, tell them you’ll pray for them and ask them to watch over you. This will help to quell any fears they have of losing touch with those they care about.
If you’re scared, confused or sad, don’t be afraid to tell your loved one. They likely feel the same way and would be grateful to know that they are not alone. They may also have some words of wisdom to offer you.
If you have any regrets or anything you’ve kept from them, now is the time to tell them; unless it’s something that will devastate them, in that case it’s probably best to keep it to yourself and confess it to them after they’ve passed.
Don’t be afraid to cry in front of them. You’ll feel better and they’ll know you truly care about and love them.
Gather your family around them. Talk about the good times you had together. Fill your loved one’s last days with good memories, joy and happiness.
It is never easy to watch a loved one in their journey through their last days, but do remember, the most important thing you can do for them is just that. Be there.